Regardless of the age of the child, when he/she does not have the right or space to say no or not accept certain things in his/her relationship with his/her parents, or rather when we, as parents, do not give them this space, he/she learns to 'submit' in his/her relationship with us.
We want him to submit to us unconditionally, because we are parents, but when he grows up, we want him to be able to raise his voice when something he doesn't want happens. If this was something that was frowned upon in his first relationship in the world, if he never learned how to do it, if he didn't have the opportunity to try it in his safest relationship, how will he learn?
If we want to raise children who can set healthy boundaries and demand their rights in the face of injustice, we will first give them the opportunity to seek their rights in their relationships with us.
During their experiments, we will guide them on how to do this in the most correct way, and we will not give a harsh tone of 'know your place' message when they cannot achieve the setting.
We will teach you that expressing your wishes, demanding your rights, and saying no is not 'disrespectful', and that it is possible to do all of these without hurting each other.
If we need to learn first, we'll start from there.
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